Archive Monthly Archives: January 2019

Intentional Self-Love

“For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it.” – Ephesians 5:28, 29

Mindful. Intentional. Self-love. Self-care. Why is there so much emphasis being placed on these notions? Is society lacking in these areas? Would you say we are nourishing and cherishing ourselves? Consider the rates of anxiety and depression, among countless other ailments. If we were to take an honest look at our diet and lifestyle, could we say we are adequately loving and caring for ourselves?

In previous posts, we touched on intentional living, intentional meal planning, and intentional love – all with the intent of finding ways to be more intentional in the new year. While this is the last post of the series on being intentional, it is by no means the least. Intentional self-love provides a foundation for being intentional in other areas of your life.

Self-love is a word we hear often. Like self-care, self-love is showing regard for one’s own well-being. To avoid misconceptions, let’s take a moment to give a bit of clarity to the term. Unlike being conceited, self-love does not show excessive regard for oneself, or disregard for the feelings of others. Taking time for self-care and self-love does not mean only caring for oneself. Instead, it is being mindful and intentional with the ways you are caring for yourself, and in turn having more to offer to others. self love

Consider the way a child is cared for. A loving parent will provide a balanced meal, promote good hygiene, and be sure their child gets adequate sleep. These habits instilled in childhood sets the precedent for how the child will care for themself in adulthood.

As adults though, everyday demands and daily stresses often crowd out time for self-care habits. Women in particular tend to neglect themselves as caretakers and primary caregivers in the household. How can we give our best to others if we ourselves are depleted? How can we be more intentional with self-love and self-care? self love

Nourishing our minds and bodies is more than just a healthy diet. It is what we’re watching, what we’re listening to, what we’re reading, and who we’re spending time with. The people we are spending time with will have the largest impact on our lives. Taking an honest look at our daily habits, and how we’re spending our time is the first step in creating healthier routines for self-love and self-care.

Personal growth does not happen by accident. It has to be intentional. Being the best version of ourselves takes work. Taking time to write your values, the things you enjoy, and what matters most to you will help you set daily intentions. As you are mindful and intentional in caring for your mind and body, you encourage self-love and self healing. This will have a ripple effect, giving you a means to pour into the lives of others and add value to their lives. self love

5 Tips to Encourage Self-Love: self love

  • Practice Self-Care – Be sure to exercise, eat nourishing foods, and get plenty of sleep. Take time to do things you enjoy doing. This will help to lift your mood, increase energy, and reduce stress.
  • Practice Gratitude – What we give attention to, we give energy to. Write things you are grateful for each morning to begin your day with a positive mindset.
  • Practice Tapping (EFT or TFT) – Tapping therapy is used to release negative energy that gets stored in the body. It is a powerful tool used to reduce phobias, anxiety, and fear, helping you reach your full potential.
  • Practice Being Mindful – Being present, and in the moment without judgement avoids overthinking and improves self-esteem.

We hope you have found this series of being intentional a useful guide in helping you be the best version of yourself! To receive further support, contact us today at Makin Wellness for a free 15 minute consultation!

About Makin Wellness

Founded in 2017 , Makin Wellness is Pittsburgh’s premier therapy & coaching centers located in Downtown Pittsburgh and Downtown New Kensington. The company’s mission is to help people heal and become happy again.  Makin Wellness specializes in depression, anxiety, addiction, trauma, medical marijuana assited treatment and relationship counseling. 

Laura Stewart, BA, CHN Makin Wellness

Laura Stewart, BA, CHN Makin Wellness

Intentional Love: Loving Less Out of Habit

“Let all that you do be done in love.” – 1 Cor. 16:18

This month we’re focusing on what it means to be intentional. Intentional living. Intentional meal planning, and most importantly, intentional love. As we contemplate goals for how we want our year to unfold, it helps to reflect on whether we’re living out of intention, or out of habit. While familiar habits are easier and feel more comfortable, it may not give us the results we desire. intentional love

Living with intention helps us make positive changes, so we can live happier lives with less anxiety. When making lifestyle changes, ask yourself the following questions:

  • “Am I living in line with my values?”
  • “Will this bring me closer to my goals?”
  • “Is this creating more or less demands on my time and energy?”

So what about “loving” with intention? How can we love less out of habit?

Intentional love takes a little introspection, or time to look inward. This helps to see personal contributions you’re making in your relationships. Being mindful also helps us be more present and aware of personal needs and the needs of others. Whether it’s an intimate relationship, friendship, or parental role, love requires emotional awareness. It’s like making a bank deposit. When we make positive emotional deposits through kind words and actions, we add value to the quality of our relationships. Communication plays a key role in this. Listening and freely expressing cares and concerns is essential in strengthening the bonds of love. How can we do this in today’s hurried world?intentional love

Making Meaningful Connections

With social media taking over today, we are lacking meaningful connections more than ever. Social media may provide some authentic friendships, yet cannot replace the benefit of real life interactions. Studies have shown face-to-face communication to be essential for human happiness, and social interaction as the key to longevity. As humans we are not meant to be isolated. Our well-being depends on social interaction.  intentional love

One benefit of face-to-face interaction is the release of neurotransmitters. Simply giving someone a hand shake can release oxytocin (the love hormone), increasing your level of trust, reducing cortisol levels, and in turn lowering stress. Facebook may connect us to some degree, but it cannot provide the benefits of real life face-to-face connections. Therefore, to foster loving relationships, we must make intentional interactions. Take time out to meet a friend for coffee, or plan a date night. In all relationships, making meaningful connections is paramount to sustaining love. intentio

Unfortunately, our attention toward one another is limited due to the constant interruptions from electronic distractions. The world has become too busy for its own good. We are left feeling detached and being taken further from the one thing that keeps us grounded, human connection. John Gottman and his wife Julie Gottman created the Gottman Institute to promote and support meaningful relationships between couples and families.

According to the Gottman Method, “the foundation for every good relationship is friendship.” It only makes sense then that we give our time and attention to our loved ones like we would when getting to know a friend. To know and understand one another, we must spend quality time together. We must intentionally pay attention.

Happy couples know each other well. They get to know one another by spending time together, so each person can hear and be heard. Self-love is an essential aspect to this. Only by fully knowing and accepting yourself can you fully and openly allow someone to see you, and you see them. The relationship you have with yourself will dictate your relationships with others. Taking time out for self-care to get to know yourself will help you to feel whole individually, and better able to give your best to others. We give our best when we feel our best!

Consider ways to make more meaningful connections, encouraging intentional love in your relationships.

Tips for Loving with Intention:

  • Be Mindful – To be mindful is to be fully present. Presence with a loved one is the best present you can give! Face-to-face interaction promotes the release of oxytocin (the love hormone), fostering more meaningful connections and reducing stress.

 

  • Prioritize Health – To give our best to others, we need to prioritize our own well-being, making health priority. Self-care will help you feel your best, so you’ll have enough energy to give to others.

 

  • Maintain Manners – Speaking with kindness goes a long way in maintaining loving relationships. Simply saying “please” and “thank you” shows concern and appreciation for your loved ones,

 

  • Set Boundaries – Time is precious. Make it a habit to set down your phone and turn off notifications during meal times, and carve out quality time to be with loved ones. Listening with your full attention will help your loved one to feel heard and more cared for, while helping to avoid misunderstandings.

 

  • Set Intentions – Write out the way you would like to see your relationships. Questions like, “If we could be our best, what would we be thinking?… Saying?…And doing?” These kinds of questions will allow you to live out your intentions more fully.

 

Here at Makin Wellness we offer a holistic approach with consideration to the whole person, encompassing physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Our services include professional counseling, life coaching, and nutritional counseling with the use of aromatherapy to promote harmony between mind and body. Contact us today if you are looking for support with being more intentional in your relationships!

About Makin Wellness

Founded in 2017 , Makin Wellness is Pittsburgh’s premier therapy & coaching centers located in Downtown Pittsburgh and Downtown New Kensington. The company’s mission is to help people heal and become happy again.  Makin Wellness specializes in depression, anxiety, addiction, trauma, medical marijuana assited treatment and relationship counseling. 

 

Laura Stewart, BA, CHN Makin Wellness

Laura Stewart, BA, CHN Makin Wellness

Intentional Meal Planning for Intentional Living

The essence of intentional living is to lead your life the way you intended it be. Often our intentions get pushed aside by our hurried lives and we end up acting on autopilot, which leaves us feeling unsatisfied and disappointed. Our previous post gives simple tips for living more out of intention and less out of habit. Intentional meal planning is another tool to help live more intentionally. After all, if we’re “hangry” it’s less likely we’ll be able to follow through on our intentions. intentional meal planning

Meal planning can be difficult with the demands of life. However, intentional meal planning can make meal the process so much simpler along with making your life run more smoothly. Making meals at home not only saves your pocket book, but also helps to be intentional about what you’re eating. There is nothing like a home cooked meal!

Planning meals according to the season is one way to plan with intention. Another key to intentional meal planning is to look on your calendar for the upcoming month. This will allow for you to plan around upcoming events, work meetings, etc. Once you have an idea of what your week will look like you can then decide whether you want to make a crockpot meal, a quick meal, or possibly leftovers. Typically, if you plan to cook three night out of the week, that will allow for at least two nights of leftovers. intentional meal planning

Winter time is perfect for warm crock pot meals, like soups and stews. There’s nothing more comforting than coming home to the aromas of a warm meal on a winter night. The best thing about crock pots is that you can leave them on for 8-10 hours while you’re away from home. Taking a little time for preparation over the weekend can make the work week so much easier.

Here are some ways to be more intentional with meal planning: intentional meal planning

  • Review your calendar – Take note of the upcoming events for the month. Will it be a day of running errands? Will you be in a meeting or attending another event? (Keeping a calendar in the kitchen helps keep the whole family in sync with one another)
  • Write out your meal plan – Make a meal plan based on the season, picking seasonal produce, and make meals accordingly.
  • Take inventory – Create a shopping list based on what you already have, and what meals you’re planning for the week.
  • Write a shopping list – Write out a “cook this/buy that” shopping list to ensure you have all ingredients for the planned meals.
  • Prepare over the weekend – Plan out meals and begin meal prep on the weekend, before the weeks activities unfold. This will bring peace of mind, helping you be more intentional.

Meal planning with fresh foods helps make the work week run more smoothly, creating less stress, and providing more energy to your day! If you’re looking to make lifestyle and diet changes, contact us today if you’re interesting in nutritional counseling, help meal planning, stress management, and support for overall wellness! We’re happy to help you on your wellness journey!

Laura Stewart, BA, CHN Makin Wellness

Laura Stewart, BA, CHN Makin Wellness

Intentional Living ~ Fresh Ideas in 2019

The term “New Year, New You” is heard quite often at the start of a new year. We may get geared up with the intent of making changes to be our best selves, yet find ourselves falling short. Of course no one is perfect, but what can we do to be more intentional? Intentional living. Intentional eating…..what does it actually mean to be intentional? intentional living

Intentional living is the art of making our own choices before others’ choices make us.” – Richie Norton

Living with intention begins with first deciding on what you want. Next, it is necessary to make changes in behavior. And lastly, take action to support your intentions. Soon, you will be creating new habits that become second nature.

Instead of making big changes, start out with setting intentions for each month, week, and day. Write out what it is that you want, listing your priorities, values, and goals. Include short-term and long-term goals, along with weekly and daily. This helps us be more realistic, allowing for steady progress. Consider further ways to be more intentional.

Tips for Being Intentional: intentional living

  • Wake Up Early – “Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” Whether it’s with a cup of coffee or during morning exercise, take time out at the start of your day to reflect and set daily intentions – write out what it is you want to do for the day.
  • Be Mindful – Staying present and in the moment helps us to make better choices, so that we’re living less out of habit and more out of intention.
  • Think Positively – Remember, our thoughts often create our reality. A positive mindset will help you handle situations more effectively, likely giving a better outcome.
  • Respond vs. React – Responding, instead of reacting, enables you to resolve things with a clear, calm mind, helping to reduce overreaction.
  • Take a 20-minute break – Go for a walk outside or somewhere quiet, away from electronics, where you can reset and refocus your intentions. This gives more of an opportunity to be mindful, to avoid acting on autopilot
  • Breathe – Deep breathing helps release tension, allowing thoughts to flow more freely, and helping the body to be in a less reactive state.

Daily noise from the television, internet, and radio can be overwhelming to the mind. Give yourself time to unplug. Write out your intentions, helping to reflect on where you are and where you want to be.

Here at Makin Wellness we are happy to help you in being more intentional so you can be your best self! Through holistic therapies, we can aid in lifestyle and diet changes, giving you tools to guide you toward a more positive mindset so you can have a more positive life! Contact us today for your free consultation! intentional living

About Makin Wellness

Founded in 2017 , Makin Wellness is Pittsburgh’s premier therapy & coaching centers located in Downtown Pittsburgh and Downtown New Kensington. The company’s mission is to help people heal and become happy again.  Makin Wellness specializes in depression, anxiety, addiction, trauma, medical marijuana assited treatment and relationship counseling. 

Laura Stewart, BA, CHN Makin Wellness

Laura Stewart, BA, CHN Makin Wellness